To be a good judge of potential leaders, don’t just see the person-see all the people who that person influences. The greater the influence, the greater the leadership potential and the ability to get others to work with you to accomplish your dream.

Self-awareness is vital, to know how one’s own behavior, what we say, how we say things are interpreted by our teams and individuals. And to be able to do this skillfully we need to know and understand the individuals in our teams well, what motivates them, to know what they need individually from a leader for them to work successfully. Leadership is about being able to adapt to their needs.

THINK LIKE A FIGHTER PILOT! This is not a gender issue but an excellent example. Jet fighters fly in four-jet formation and must do what is best for everyone, not just themselves. The leader holds life-and-death responsibility for their complicated aerial maneuvers or the entire formation will crash. The other three jets “fly the leader’s wing” and will follow the number-one jet anywhere—even into ground. The most effective and respected leaders adopt the same “think for number four” mindset: Before make a move, consider how affect the other jets in formation. Can you say that you think for the entire “crew” before making decision and how it will affect everyone? How will the decision make me feel about yourself? If published for all to see, would I feel good if my family and friends read it?

WRITE YOUR WAY TO SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP! Write job description for boss and use it as a guide for your own leadership qualities. Example: One who gives honest feedback, is patient of other’s mistakes, does not overload employees and realizes they have lives outside of work. When reviewing your job description, are you the kind of boss you would want to work for?

Leaders see farther and more quickly than their teammates. They anticipate what is going to happen. As a result, they get the team moving in the right direction ahead of time and for that reason, the team is in a position to win. The greater the challenge, the greater the need for the many advantages that leadership provides. If you want to win, and keep winning for a long time, train players on the team to become better leaders.

Thomas Jefferson once said, “No duty the executive has to perform is so trying as to put the right man in the right place.”

As the old saying goes, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life!” Plant seeds of exemplary leadership and watch them grow!

There IS power in those feminine genes. Light up your world and everyone’s around you!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Rita Rocker is a national inspirational and educational speaker, communications and image specialist, and a career and virtual presentations coach with Transformation Academy, LLC.  She is the author of “A Guide to Marketing Yourself for Success”, and a contributing author to “The Unstoppable Woman’s Guide to Emotional Well Being -The Total Woman in Leadership and Success Guide for the Unstoppable Entrepreneur.” She has appeared on national television and radio talk shows on self-esteem and communication. A former Mrs. Nebraska and active in numerous professional organizations, Rita is on the Board of the Small Business Association of the Midlands and co-director of greater Omaha’s Affiliated Women International. Rita provides life and career-transforming programs to mature teens and adults. Contact Rita at