The author, Rita Rocker has done a phenomenal job in writing “Hope at the End of Your Rope”. I found myself feeling extra gentle and filled with serious gratitude towards life. What she shares is so memorable and uplifting. She writes from her heart and spirit hoping her readers walk away refreshed and renewed. I believe even the happiest people in the world would appreciate this book because it confirms life’s journey. I really enjoyed this book because Rita Rocker suffered into greatness which is the spiritual journey of everyone with purpose. Well done faithful servant.AMA
PERCEPTION can make or break relationships. It is how we see ourselves and how we believe others see us. It is also how we perceive (see, judge, interpret) others. The perception of an individual is his or her reality. People act on the basis of their perceptions of you (nasty, cooperative, sloppy, friendly, engaging, and helpful, etc). If you change their perceptions, you change the way they think and feel about you, and you change the things that they will do for you. Here are key areas that influence our lives in a very significant way:
POLITENESS IS POWER: Treat People Politely (positive energy). People do things for 2 reasons– either they want to or have to. Treating them with kindness, courtesy and respect makes them want to do things for you–they are motivated to go out of their way to help you solve your problems and accomplish your goals. Being nice satisfies one of the deepest of all subconscious needs, the need to feel important and respected. Whenever you convey this to another person in your conversation, your attitude and your treatment of that person, he or she will be wide open to being persuaded and influenced by you in almost anything you need.
PERSONAL POWER: The more power and influence that a person perceives that you have, whether real or not, the more likely it is that that person will be persuaded by you to do beneficial things –you have branded yourself as an authority or someone who is good to do business with. Example, if you appear to be a senior executive, or a wealthy person, people will be much more likely to help you and serve you than they would be if you were perceived as uncaring, insecure, too temperamental, etc.
POSITIONING: Shape Their Thinking About You. The way other people think about you and talk about you when you are not there. Your positioning in the mind and heart of other people largely determines how open they are to being influenced by you. Again, YOU are the #1 brand in your business. Everything you do shapes & influences their perceptions of you and your positioning in their minds. Is there something you could say or do to encourage people to be more open to your requests and help you achieve your goals? (thoughtful, team player, keep your word, polite, professional).
PERFORMANCE: Be Good At What You Do. This refers to your level of competence and expertise in your area. A person who is highly respected for his or her ability to get results is far more persuasive and influential than a person who only does an average job. Commit To Excellence: The perception that people have of your performance capabilities exerts an inordinate influence on how they think and feel about you. Commit yourself to being the very best in your field. Sometimes, a reputation for being excellent at what you do can be so powerful that it alone can make you an extremely persuasive individual in all of your interactions with the people around you. They will accept your advice, be open to your influence and agree with your requests.
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Don’t deny yourself, develop yourself.
Hope: restructuring life and recreating a movement. Rising to your appointed place. .. with the eagles that soar above the storm!! That may take clearing your path of detrimental relationships, hurtful tapes that may have played through your mind most of your life.
Think of your mind as a computer and work diligently to program it for the most positive and effective transformation. Just like a computer, if you load the wrong software into it, it will not function correctly and may cause a hardware crash which can cause tremendous aggravation to restore and rebuild before getting back on the right track. Just like when a computer gets a virus and needs to be cleaned up, we often need to remove the negative “viruses” in our lives. They run the gamut from negative and demeaning relationships, bad health habits that tear us down, careless spending that can put us in a sea of debt, and just plain filling up our mind’s computer with trash. When our thoughts become infected, we either clean them up, hit the gas and go forward in victory mode, or clog up our system and sit by the side of the road. It is your choice. Is it time to replace your mental engine?
When you go through life’s transitions, keep focused on the bigger picture. Design it in your mind no matter what is actually currently in your life. Walt Disney created the entire Magic Kingdom in his mind before he had the money, support, anyone’s respect and cooperation, or the very equipment that he needed to actually make it happen. He grew up as a poor workhorse on the family farm with an abusive father who made him and his brother work from before dawn to late at night, every moment they were not in school. They would freeze in the winter with holes in their one pair of shoes. His trials and loss of a true childhood is what gave him the drive to create an enchanted place for all of us to dream, have unbelievable fun, and experience life like never before! If Walt Disney could rise from the ashes and do something so profound and miraculous, think of what you can do with the magic pen we call “the mind. Unlock your inner architect. Reprogram Your Mind. The one who has the most power to change your life is the one you see in your mirror!”
See a wall of fear? Shift! Move forward. Run into another wall—unsupportive people? Shift. Move forward. Think of changing the atmosphere as you go–new people, places, things, opportunities, jobs. Not everyone currently in your life can go forward with you. Lay down your hesitations. You are a warrior, a phoenix who has risen. Now soar! This is your moment…step past your intimidations, your fears. You were never meant to be desolate, afflicted or not achieving your highest purpose. Fight for it!
“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog”. Mark Twain
Are you ready to open a previously closed door to a new life adventure, career, or relationship? Do you lack the confidence to try for a new or long-time business or personal goal, the one you may have wanted since way back in junior high? Do you minimize your own skills and abilities by comparing what you believe are “liabilities” to other people’s “assets”? Instead, nourish and feed all of the wonderful attributes that YOU possess. If someone’s years of experience, looks, youth, or bank account intimidate you from trying for that still-unfulfilled goal, focus on all of your attributes like your contagious enthusiasm, healthy humility, passion for excellence, and superb people skills that far surpass what he or she has to offer. People are often hired for a particular job more often due to their personality and attitude than their set of technical skills. Why? Technical skills can be taught, but changing a potential employee’s outlook on life and thought processes may be too challenging for an employer to gamble on.
Even if your present talent or material possessions are not enough to get you to the finish line, determine what the first thing is you need to change/add/delete…people, places, things. Learn what steps are necessary to complete your desired goal. The end result? Flourishing in the career you always dreamed of, marrying a quality person like you truly deserve, starting a civic organization that stokes a fire down in your soul, or whatever else you love. For some, it may not be a career or marriage, but fulfilling a creative need, like taking art or dance classes, joining a gym, attending interesting seminars, meeting with a group of like-minded individuals who bring more joy into life, mentoring a struggling student, volunteering at a hospital or library, taking some “me” time at a spa, or any number of little experiences that can make life more enjoyable. Everyone needs and deserves time for themselves.
Always keep in mind, if you allow the same limiting thoughts to be entertained, you cannot expect to produce anything differently from what you have experienced in life up until now. Perhaps it is time to assess what changes can be made in your current life or business plan. How can you increase your knowledge? How can you refine your image and communication skills? What local groups and online social media can you become active in to connect with others passionate about your same dreams and goals? Generational differences? Everyone can all learn valuable lessons and gain tremendously helpful insight from the other generations while valuing the camaraderie and support of our own generation.
It is NEVER too late to reinvent yourself! It is NEVER too late to start over no matter what has happened to you! Determine that your new life starts today! Remember the old saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always had.” What holds you back? Are you over committed trying to make everyone else happy? You know what you need! Rehearse your new role (the one you can vividly create in your mind), take the first constructive step (taking a class, joining a beneficial new organization, releasing negative people who hinder your, enhancing your appearance…you get the idea). Okay, now keep the momentum going with the next step and continue moving forward!
Great program from The Job Dilemma on marketing yourselves for success when you’re a Boomer!!
You’ve always had the power, even when you don’t feel powerful. You just had to learn it for yourself. Glinda, Wizard of Oz.
Affirmation: “Today, I focus on looking within, allowing God’s abilities and strength to begin pouring out of me!”
Do you feel like you have you lost your power/energy/resources physically, mentally, emotionally? It is still within you! You’ve already been equipped with all you need to accomplish your calling. Determine if any self-limiting beliefs (can’t, won’t, afraid, broke) have hindered your success.
Here’s a good life lesson from the buzzard. In a pen that is 6’ x 8’ and entirely open at the top, the buzzard, in spite of its ability to fly, will remain an absolute captive of its circumstances. Why? A buzzard always begins a flight from the ground with a run of 10-12 feet. Without space to run, it will not even attempt to fly, but will remain a prisoner for life in a small cage even though the top is open for it to fly away. How sad that its misbeliefs about its own abilities will keep it stuck! The buzzard was free to soar but did not even try!
Look at your life. Like the buzzard, are limiting thoughts and viewpoints keeping you bound even though the door is wide open for takeoff? If you’re stuck, change your approach and remember… “I get up, I walk, I fall down—meanwhile, I keep dancing!” (author unknown).
REMEMBER, YOU ARE A ROLE MODEL TO EVERYONE YOU MEET. WHAT ARE YOU MODELING?
Our lives resemble shopping for flowers – photographs on the seed packages. Not show picture of what the seeds look like in their current state, as dark, tiny, ugly seeds that do not showcase their true beauty and potential. The package shows the magnificent end result.
Given the right nutrients and care, it will blossom into a vibrant and delightful creation. You look in the mirror, never see yourself as the seed–but as you truly are–a child of God’s magnificence! Allow His seed inside you to grow, and only focus on the lovely picture of what you can become!
Associating with healthy, positive individuals from organizations that have integrity – helps us grow and gain a new perspective – Stretching muscles for new ideas that will open up healthy new doors.
Do things different from what normally do, time with different people, go places you normally don’t go (free art exhibit, local chamber event…).
Change things up! Stoke your fire even if you’re tired! Push hard to continuing birthing your dream!
How is life going for you? Good? Great? Troublesome? Frustrating? Better than ever? Depending on your answer, here are a few quick questions to ask yourself. First of all: What Are You Putting in Your Shopping Cart of Life?
What Are You Putting in Your Shopping Cart of Life? Are they healthy lifestyle choices that are good for you or unhealthy people, places and things? Affirmation: “Today I assess where I am in life, what is good for me and what is a hindrance. I choose taking whatever steps necessary to fill my cart to overflowing with joy and abundance.”
Just like reading labels can help steer you away from of unhealthy food and drink, putting clear labels (helpful, hurtful, fun, depressing, energizing) on habits and relationships can also steer you to choices that nourish you and give you the strength and endurance to rise and thrive!
Ask yourself these questions. Do the feelings and habits I am hanging on to:
- Serve any worthwhile purpose for me? For my family? For my career?
- Help me move forward with my goals? Hold me back in an unhappy comfort zone? In which case, what do you need to do to switch to a life-enhancing zone?
- Work in my favor in any way? Why or why not? Take the time to really think about this and it will amaze you what you can discover.
If your emotions, thoughts, self-talk, life choices (relationships, jobs, activities) do not help you transform and move forward, move them to the dumpster and head to the aisles (new positive choices) with the “good stuff” you truly deserve. What steps can you focus on next to improve your life? Begin the process with small steps, one at a time, to get your mind moving in a new direction.Block your rear-view mirror!
Let’s sing, dance and ride the roller coaster of life in high gear. Choose to live life to the fullest. Start now, right where you are, and make a brand new ending to the story of your life!