What does self-image have to do with our success? Everything! In the working world, our level of self-esteem plays a crucial part in having the career we truly want. What is self-image? It is how we see ourselves, how we believe others see us, and how we allow ourselves to be treated. Self-image affects not only our ability to get ahead in the working world, but in how well we get along with our family and those we come into contact with every day. 

We often limit our success by the way we think, how we interpret ourselves and the world, based on our past experiences. We get exactly what we expect to see, expect to hear and expect to experience. If we expect more rejection, failure, and discouragement, that is what comes knocking on our door.  If we expect greater success, satisfying business relationships, or making Partner in the firm, guess what? Our energy and focus takes us towards those goals. Unfortunately, some individuals follow the same format of defeat for a lifetime, unable to still reach their goal because they were not able to in the past. Why? There are any number of reasons, such as a myriad of personal struggles, lack of finances, limited education, their own personality traits, or the people closest to them causing hindrances. The list of characteristics and circumstances is limitless.

How did these obstacles develop such a paralyzing grip? One of the biggest ways this can happen is because we often determine our worth by perceptions taken on from others. Perhaps, since childhood, we were told that we couldn’t do something because we were not as smart as a sibling, neighbor, relative, or another student in school. Maybe we were shy and cute, and “powerful people aren’t cute.” Any of those beliefs can cause us to stop trying for the brass ring and instead, keep us going around in circles on the merry-go-round of life. What about the man who was raised to act tough in order to be manly, and now struggles with how to communicate in an assertive, yet positive manner and not be overbearing? All of these misconceptions hinder us from building the kind of business and personal relationships so vital to our success and happiness.

Maybe you are not confident trying for a new or long-time business or personal goal, the one you have wanted since way back in junior high. Do not minimize your own skills and abilities by comparing your credentials to others. Instead, nourish and feed all of the wonderful attributes you have to offer. A competitor’s years of experience might intimidate you from trying for that big client, but maybe your enthusiasm, healthy humility, passion for excellence and superb people skills far surpass what he or she has to offer. Remember, even if your present talent, bank account or size of staff is not enough to get you to the finish line, but it can get you to the next step, and the next. The end result? Either owning a thriving, successful business or flourishing in the career you have always dreamed of!

Keep in mind, when allowing the same limiting thoughts to be entertained, you cannot expect to produce anything differently from what you have experienced up until now. Perhaps it is time to assess what changes can be made in your current business plan. How can you  increase your knowledge and benefits of every product and service? What local groups and online social media you can become active in?

Stop and think of what would be the most beneficial. Need some moral support? No one can do it alone. Surrounding ourselves with people of like mind builds us up. We can all share helpful ideas with the kind of positive energy that it takes to succeed!

Stay tuned for powerful steps to creating your confident, professional image!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Rita Rocker is a national inspirational and educational speaker, communications and image specialist, and a career and virtual presentations coach with Transformation Academy, LLC.  She is the author of “A Guide to Marketing Yourself for Success”, and a contributing author to “The Unstoppable Woman’s Guide to Emotional Well Being -The Total Woman in Leadership and Success Guide for the Unstoppable Entrepreneur.” She has appeared on national television and radio talk shows on self-esteem and communication. A former Mrs. Nebraska and active in numerous professional organizations, Rita is on the Board of the Small Business Association of the Midlands and co-director of greater Omaha’s Affiliated Women International. Rita provides life and career-transforming programs to mature teens and adults. Contact Rita at rita@transformationacademy.com.