We’ve all been told a lie: that there’s a game we must play in life with rules that we must follow to make other people happy. If we play this game, we will win and get what we want in life. Most of us hold ourselves back from our dreams by believing this lie and playing this game.
They are habits of thought that we think automatically about aspects of life because we assume they are true. It is important to question your beliefs because the truth is that just because you believe them doesn’t make them true. You probably used to believe something that you don’t believe anymore. That’s good news because if some of what you believe is limiting you, you can change it!
Imagine you’re floating in a crystal-clear blue ocean. This ocean represents a space where your business thrives with little or no competition. Now picture a murky red ocean, crowded with competition, where businesses fight over the same limited resources. That’s the difference between a red ocean and a blue ocean strategy for coaches.
If you’ve ever watched a move or read a story, you know that at the center of every story is a hero. This hero isn’t usually a superhero who is endowed with super-human powers. In most cases, the hero is an ordinary person who either has to rise to the occasion when life throws them a catastrophe or who has to face their demons in order to create a better life.
Emotions aren’t inherently right or wrong. They are your body’s response to what you are thinking—whether you’re thinking consciously or unconsciously. That’s right: thoughts create emotions. Your belief systems and unconscious patterns are often running on autopilot, leading to emotions that feel random or hard to explain.
Sometimes it feels like we’re forced to ask ourselves this question: “Which is more important? Having a family (or friends/social life) or having money/things/career?” But how do you choose? What do you do if you feel like you have no choice?
Everything we want is because we believe it will make us feel the way we desire: good, or at least better. Everything. And this is why desire has a bad reputation. Some even believe that desire is the root of suffering.
I was sitting on the dock in the back of my house watching the light reflect on the water and listening to the egrets calling in the mangroves. I was on the tail end of a period of several months in which I had been undergoing intense internal healing. I say healing now, but at the time, from the outside I may have seemed like a recluse, and internally I feared that I had finally gone crazy.
On the path to any meaningful goal, one thing is guaranteed: setbacks. They come in many forms—unexpected delays, discouragement, or simple lack of motivation. The key to success lies not in avoiding them, but in overcoming setbacks with resilience and purpose. This is where your true growth happens.
